Are you sabotaging yourself? Have you been keeping yourself from succeeding and standing in your way?
If you answered yes, it’s time to assess your self-sabotaging behaviours. This article will help you identify if you’re sabotaging yourself and help you overcome it.
You’ll learn:
● How to watch for the warning signs of self-sabotage
● How to generate goals instead of excuses
● How to recognize your problem areas
Let’s get started!
Are you sabotaging yourself?
If you’ve noticed that nothing seems to go your way, that around every turn, there tends to be some disaster or trouble, but you can’t figure out what’s causing it, you might want to do some self-reflection. After all, most likely, the only thing all these situations have in common is you.
Are you limiting yourself or letting fear get the better of you? Are you always making excuses, no matter how small the mistake or transgressions? Are you sabotaging yourself?
Watch for the warning signs
Partaking in any of the following behaviours to excess are vital warning signs for self-sabotage:
● Self-medicate (drinking, drug use, etc.)
● Making excuses
● Making less effort
● Distracting yourself
If you notice these behaviours in yourself, you may need to pull yourself out of your self-destructive behaviours.
Stop making excuses
Excuses are like poison, and once they seep their way in, they’re nearly impossible to get them back out again. If you find yourself constantly making an excuse for just about everything, even things of little to no consequence, you’re guilty of self-sabotage.
Rather than make excuses, make goals. Rather than excuse the behaviour or situation away, take the time to analyze it and determine what went wrong, what factors were in your control, and what you could’ve done better. Turn your self-sabotaging into motivation by keeping the action on your mind rather than excuses.
Challenging negative emotions
A big part of self-sabotage is self-deprecation. You have to recognize these emotions for what they are and not take them too seriously. Work through them and be kind to yourself. This effort will allow you to move into a more positive and empowering state of mind so you can get out of the horrible trend of sabotaging yourself.
This practice is often easier said than done, but it’s work worth doing. You can use this practice to better your whole life, not just in the effort to eliminate self-sabotaging behaviours. Everyone struggles with negative emotions, and it’s how you work through them that matters.
Recognizing your problem areas
Everyone has some area where they’re more self-destructive than others. What triggers your self-sabotaging behaviours? In what area of your life do you find yourself self-sabotaging the most?
Part of recognizing these areas is learning when you need to be more careful and pay closer attention to your behaviour. It can also help you zone in on where you need to concentrate your efforts. Is it fear holding you back and causing you to self-sabotage, or is it something different?
Don’t give up
The most important advice I can give you for this endeavour is not to give up. It can be a gruelling journey at times, but you can get through it. You have to stay focused, keep your motivation up, and refuse to give up. Stick to it and stay the course; you’ll be glad you did.
Have you been guilty of self-sabotage? If you’re ready to make a change and stop sabotaging yourself, it’s time to assess yourself and take on the challenge of eliminating this behaviour.
I hope this article has helped you to work your way through your self-sabotaging behaviour. Though the journey will be difficult and gruelling, I promise it’ll be well worth it if you don’t give up on it.
As always, I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback in the comments below.
Until next time, keep on keeping on,
D
